Finding A Middle Ground

I had the opportunity to visit a friend of mine in Boston yesterday, and we ended up talking about the rut(s) in which our cohort has found itself. There seems to be a bi-modal distribution. Most of us are law-abiding citizens who pay their taxes and go to work. A smaller portion are caught up in psycho-dramas of various sorts, mostly of their own devising. Both lifestyles are, in their own respective ways, fairly predictable. As a result it seems that, every time we get together, we have less and less to say to each other. It seems kind of sad, but its also true. Let's consider the taxpaying contingent: We're all old enough now that we've either had jobs for awhile, or we're finally finishing our various advanced degrees and looking for something to do post-whatever. Most of us get up, go to work, and then come home again. A lot of us are married or engaged, and a few have gotten to the point where we're breeding because, as my friend so eloquently put it, "it seems like the thing to do". The most entertaining thing to do when we get together is to talk about the latest dramas from the psychotic contingent, but that wears quickly as well. We're all slowly but surely sinking into the house/dog/1.2 kids paradigm, not necessarily by choice but more just by default. So what to do? My friend and I tried to chew this question over and came up with absolutely nothing. Is that a failure of imagination on our parts, or is there actually very little choice for us in terms of lifestyle? I will think on this, and maybe write more later.